The Loneliness No One Talks About

By Melania Macias | Christian Trauma Recovery Strategist

There is something no one really talks about when it comes to anxiety and panic attacks, and that is the deep loneliness that comes with it.

It’s the loneliness you feel when anxiety controls your days or a panic attack hits out of nowhere, and the people around you tell you things like, “You just need to learn to control it,” or “You need to get over it.” Those words, though often well-intentioned, can cut deeply when you’re already fighting a battle no one else can see.

You feel alone because the anxiety doesn’t make sense to others. They don’t understand the pain in your chest, the constant upset stomach, or the lingering feeling of uneasiness that never seems to leave. They don’t understand how suddenly it comes, or how powerless it can make you feel.

I want you to know this first: I understand.

I understand the emotions, the fear, the confusion, and I understand the crushing feeling of being alone in it all.

When my anxiety and panic were at their worst, I remember feeling like everyone around me slowly fell away. I remember one moment so clearly: I was home alone, sitting on the stairs, in the middle of a full-blown panic attack. I tried calling friends. I tried calling family. No one answered.

I know what it feels like to desperately want to release what’s happening inside of you, only to be met with words that hurt instead of help, words like, “You really need to learn how to control this,” or “I don’t know how to help you.”

And then there’s the crying—or rather, the inability to cry. Because crying sparks anxiety. So instead, you try to go numb. You try not to feel anything at all, hoping that if you stay flat enough, the panic won’t rise.

Meanwhile, your mind won’t stop.

The thoughts sound like your own voice, but they’re filled with fear—endless “what ifs,” worst-case scenarios, and constant warnings of everything that could go wrong. They play on repeat, fueling the anxiety, and no matter how badly you want to shut them off, you can’t. You feel mentally exhausted, drained before the day even begins.

Maybe you get one “good” day a week, one day where the anxiety isn’t as loud, where you feel somewhat normal. On that day, you try to cram in everything you couldn’t do before, because you know the calm won’t last forever.

If this is you, please hear me when I say this: I see you.

I was once exactly where you are.

For 33 years, I struggled with anxiety and panic. It controlled my life until I reached a breaking point where I truly believed I needed to go to a hospital to get “fixed.” I had prayed all the prayers. I had read the books. I had listened to the teachings. And yet, nothing seemed to change.

I felt like giving up.

But it was in that moment, when I was completely broken, that God took me on a journey of healing.

I had been clinically diagnosed with chronic panic disorder and generalized anxiety disorder. But God began to show me something I had never been taught: that what I was dealing with wasn’t only mental, it was spiritual.

These “irrational disorders” were trauma-induced spiritual oppressions that entered through traumatic events I experienced as a child. As the Lord walked me through healing, He didn’t just restore me—He also taught me how to help set others free.

Today, I have been living for over a decade free from anxiety, panic, and fear.

What the enemy meant to harm me through my childhood trauma, God has redeemed. I now walk in authority to help others break free from the same chains.

If you want to walk this journey with me, I’ve created a new Facebook group where I teach, dive into Scripture, and answer questions directly. I’ve also created a more private, Facebook-free community after my original account, one I had for over 15 years, was permanently banned overnight, causing me to lose all followers and connections.

Both spaces are free, and I’ll link them below if you’d like to join.

I’ll leave you with this truth:

Things are happening in our lives that we label as “mental” when, in reality, they are deeply spiritual. The Bible reminds us that we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, powers, and forces we cannot see.

You are not weak.
You are not broken.
And you are not alone.

Thank you for spending this time with me. If this message resonated with you, please like and share this episode so it can reach someone who needs it.

Until next time, blessings.

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